This post makes me angry in ways I cannot describe.
This is so incredibly wrong I can’t even begin to explain it. Plenty of women, PLENTY OF THEM, do not like when men cry. I can’t tell you the number of women I have talked to who think it makes a man weak. Hell the other day there was a guy here whining about his back hurting. I mean WHINING. I was looking at him thinking “what the hell is wrong with this guy?” And yes it’s probably not the right thing to think.
I didn’t say anything to him, basically ignored it, but my immediate thought was “What a fucking wimp”. Women do this just as much as men do. Mothers tell their boys to stop crying, girlfriends chide their boyfriends for shedding tears. I have probably heard more women to tell men to “man up” than men. This idea that other men are doing this…no. Men would love to cry, be emotional, they are fucking taught not to act that way by other men AND WOMEN. This is a problem society caused not JUST MEN.
Not only this, but the idea that men ‘created these standards’ and therefore men today are not allowed to question them is so unfathomably stupid I can’t even think about it.
I mean, lets just say that men did ‘create’ these standards. Men created gender roles and enforced them on the world at some point in history. Now we must be talking centuries ago here, realistically, because we can see the gender roles we know today (or versions of them) going back hundreds of years.
So hundreds of years ago men created gender roles. (I mean I think this is bullshit but lets roll with it.) Therefore men living today cannot be held accountable for them because they were formed many many generations ago. Gender roles are not their fault of men living today.
Men born today have these gender roles forced on them just as much as women do.
So maybe instead of getting angry at guys for talking about the expectations they have on them as men, and maybe instead of getting angry and blaming mens problems on men who cannot reasonably be blamed for them, realise you should be fighting WITH men against unfair gender expectations and inequality.
nothing gets me more frustrated than when people claims that all a group’s issues are self-induced.